What if the biggest threat to your relationship isn’t infidelity, but instead is your next credit card bill? You can stop arguing and learn how to talk about money.
Disagreements about money can quietly erode trust and connection in a relationship, often becoming a major source of stress and even separation. When partners bring different histories, attitudes, and beliefs about money to the table, conflict can escalate quickly. If couples stay stuck in an “us against each other” mindset instead of shifting to “us against the problem,” tension can become chronic. Author, Terry Gaspard shows readers how to break this cycle by teaching practical strategies for having calm, constructive conversations about finances. Her approach helps partners communicate effectively, reduce conflict, and build a stronger,
more harmonious relationship.
LET’S TALK ABOUT MONEY: Low Conflict Conversations About Money for Couples (Bloomsbury, January 2026) in a rare guide to financial issues for partners written by a psychologist, not a financial planner. It’s focus is on communication.
Reviews
“Let’s Talk about Money is a well-researched and needed guidebook for couples, more than half of whom consider themselves financially incompatible. Money problems often lead to breakups and divorce. Talking about money is laden with negative emotions and beliefs. Terry’s newest book will help couples overcome these obstacles, learn to understand themselves and each other, and better communicate about managing money.” ―Darlene Lancer, LMFT, Author of Codependency for Dummies; Dating, Loving, and Leaving a Narcissist, and Conquering Shame and Codependency
“If you’re putting off talking about money, I guarantee it’s because you know that you have different attitudes about finances and that’s going to end in recriminations, upset and strife. But you’re not alone, most couples fall into the ‘spender’ and ‘saver’ dynamic and it’s easy to think there is no middle ground. Fortunately, Terry Gaspard has lots of practical tools from her years working with couples which will help you find an ‘us against the problem’ mindset.” ―Andrew G. Marshall, Marital therapist, author of I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You, and host of “The Meaningful Life” podcast
“Let’s Talk about Money is a practical, well written book that gives couples the tools they need to have lower conflict and less tension about money. Financial issues can take a toll on relationships and money is one of the leading sources of arguments among couples. Using examples from interviews, Terry Gaspard helps couples learn to communicate more effectively and troubleshoot the challenges of finances. I highly recommend it!” ―Dr. Terri Orbuch (PhD), Distinguished Professor, Therapist, and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great
“As a couples therapist, I know firsthand how often money becomes the silent third partner in a relationship-shaping choices, fueling arguments, and straining intimacy. In Let’s Talk About Money, Terry Gaspard brings compassion, clinical wisdom, and practical strategies to one of the most emotionally charged topics couples face. With relatable stories, clear tools, and a deep understanding of the beliefs and histories that drive financial conflict, this book helps partners move from blame and avoidance to collaboration and trust. Whether you’re struggling with debt, different spending styles, or simply avoiding money talks altogether, this book is an invaluable guide to building financial intimacy and strengthening your relationship. Every couple should read it.” ―Joshua Coleman, PhD, Psychologist and author of Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties and How to Heal the Conflict
“You can hire a financial advisor and you can seek marriage therapy. But getting effective financial guidance from an expert who truly “gets” why couples argue about money, and what they can do to break free of hurtful, dysfunctional fights, now this is a Godsend! As someone who has specialized in working with couples on the brink for decades, I can vouch for the fact that disagreements about finances are one of the leading causes of divorce. This book will help you and your mate find money solutions that work for both of you. Want some financial advice? Invest in this book.” ―Michele Weiner-Davis, Author of Healing from Infidelity: Sanity-Saving, Expert Advice for Ending the Affair’s Grip on Your Marriage NOW!
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a therapist in private practice and a popular blogger at gottman.com, the website for John Gottman’s institute. Gaspard is the coauthor, with her daughter, of the highly praised Daughters of Divorce. Gaspard is also a regular contributor to patheos.com, marriage.com, The Good Men Project, and other outlets. She lives in Rhode Island with her second husband and can be found online at movingpastdivorce.com. For more: https://movingpastdivorce.com/lets-talk-about-money/
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